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6 Things You Need To Know About Divorce Mediation

If you’re getting divorced, here’s what you need to know about mediation to make better decisions.

I recently attended a 40-hour divorce mediation training. Forty hours is the requirement in my state to practice as a divorce mediator. That’s not why I did it though. As a divorce coach, many of my clients are going through mediation and I wanted to support them as best as possible during the process. I truly believe that mediation is a better way to “do” divorce. And I believe that because I walked out of my first mediation meeting and never went back.

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What Casual Sex Can Teach You After A Divorce

If you lost yourself in your marriage, a fun fling after your divorce can introduce you to … YOU again! She was 40 and had just initiated her divorce. He was 28 and single. They met at a business conference and spent one crazy night together before heading back to their respective lives. She had…

Numbing Yourself Through Divorce Isn’t The Answer

Choosing to mask your feelings through overeating, alcohol, or shopping during your divorce will keep you stuck. Is that really where you want to be?  Divorce can feel like failure. It can feel like rejection. And it can feel like betrayal. Divorce is a shock, even if you initiated it. Everything you know is turned…
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Divorce a Controlling Ex and Find Your Voice

Leave the fear and intimidation behind to focus on what’s most important. I’ll call her Janet. She spent years of her life married to a man who used emotional abuse to control her. When she had her epiphany and filed for divorce, he threatened her and swore he would take everything that she cherished, including…

Stop Playing the Divorce Blame Game

Stop blaming yourself for your divorce. You can’t finish the dance when there is only one of you still on the dance floor. You might not realize it, but your marriage was not just about you and your ex. There was a third thing involved here called the relationship – that unique dynamic that the…
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Who Is To Blame When A Partner Cheats? Hint: Not You

More than half of all men and women cheat in their relationships. So, who do you blame when it happens to you? According to these recent infidelity statistics (http://www.statisticbrain.com/infidelity-statistics/), cheating is rampant!  A whopping 57% of men and 54% of women admit to having had an affair. And 74% of men and 68% of women…

If Nothing Else, Hold On To Gratitude During Your Divorce

How would a heaping portion of gratitude make a difference in your divorce? Divorce comes with its own unique blend of emotions. It contains all of the typical feelings associated with a break-up, like hurt, rejection, anger and self-doubt. With divorce, though, all those feelings get intensified and mixed together with an extra helping of…

Feeling Lonely After Your Divorce? Use it!

If you’re only “coping” with loneliness, then you’re not really coping at all. Loneliness is universal. We all know what it feels like, that empty ache in the chest. And loneliness is probably the most common emotion people experience before, during and after divorce. I know I did. Even during my marriage, I was lonely.…
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Don’t Let Divorce Destroy Your Family

Divorce is about the dissolution of a marriage, NOT the family – unless YOU let it be that way. People often experience divorce as if it were a big wave that swept them off their feet, over a cliff and carried them out to sea. They flounder. They struggle to breathe and stay afloat. And…
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Help! I’m in a Divorce Fog!

Can’t remember or understand what your divorce attorney says? It’s not you … it’s divorce fog! It’s a common occurrence. Almost everyone I know going through a divorce says they can barely remember anything their lawyer says. I call it “divorce fog.” And science has proven that it is a real thing. Multiple studies have…
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3 Tips for Embracing Your Single Mom Status

Being a single mom can be challenging AND liberating. Which perspective do you want to choose? A neighbor of mine happened to say in conversation “Well, now that you’re a single mom …” and it took me completely by surprise. I didn’t realize that I was going to be put in the “single mom” category…
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Collaborative Law: A Divorce Option You Might Not Know About

You might not know about collaborative divorce – but you should if you want to gain more control over the divorce process and create a cooperative co-parenting relationship. I recently attended a 3-day training on Collaborative Law hosted by the Massachusetts Collaborative Law Council. Collaborative law is a process that focuses on dispute resolution versus…