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6 Surprising Feelings You’re Going To Have About Your Divorce

Anger at your ex? Sure, that’s a given. But hope, elation or even nostalgia? Now those are some unexpected feelings. Don’t worry: They’re all totally normal. I still don’t know what to do with my rings now that I’m divorced. Every now and again, I still like to dig them out from where I had…
divorce decision

Get Unstuck Around Your Divorce Decision

Doing nothing is a decision to stay stuck in that situation. How’s that working for you? I knew in my heart that I needed to end my marriage for more than three years before I did anything about it. I did tell my husband that things weren’t working … for either of us … and…
child divorce

How To Make Sure Your Divorce Doesn’t Scar Your Kids For Life

Here’s how to talk about divorce with them and let go of the negativity – for everyone involved.  We did it together. We never used the “D” word. We told our boys that Mommy and Daddy didn’t want to be married anymore. We emphasized that we are still their parents … love them unconditionally ……
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Divorce Can Be The Best Decision You’ve Ever Made

Is your marriage shackling you to an unfulfilled life? How many years have you been allowing what you don’t like in your marriage? And how many compromises have you made that just didn’t feel good? I’m not talking about leaving the toilet seat up or the toothpaste cap off. I’m talking about where you wanted…
gay marriage

Gay Marriage And Divorce: LGBT Love

Gay marriage is marriage – with everything that comes with it… including divorce. If you’re in an LGBT union and considering a permanent split, here’s what you need to know. Not too long ago, while driving in the car, my 5-year old son told me about two of his classmates that got “married” at recess.…
Overwhelmed

Overwhelmed By Your Divorce? Avoid These 7 Mistakes!

Don’t let “divorce overwhelm” hijack your divorce and cause you to make these mistakes! I confess. I was completely overwhelmed by my divorce. Where once I had been on solid ground, now I was at sea without any sense of how I was going to stay afloat, never mind what direction I needed to take.…
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7 Steps for Finding Peace During And After Your Divorce

Dealing with a divorce over the holidays can be difficult. So, give yourself the gift of peace and joy. The holiday season is meant to be all about peace and good will. During and after a divorce, though, it’s difficult to find that peace, that joy, in your life – especially with the ghost of…
blame

Stop Playing the Divorce Blame Game

Stop blaming yourself for your divorce. You can’t finish the dance when there is only one of you still on the dance floor. You might not realize it, but your marriage was not just about you and your ex. There was a third thing involved here called the relationship – that unique dynamic that the…
appreciation

If Nothing Else, Hold On To Gratitude During Your Divorce

How would a heaping portion of gratitude make a difference in your divorce? Divorce comes with its own unique blend of emotions. It contains all of the typical feelings associated with a break-up, like hurt, rejection, anger and self-doubt. With divorce, though, all those feelings get intensified and mixed together with an extra helping of…
divorced family

Don’t Let Divorce Destroy Your Family

Divorce is about the dissolution of a marriage, NOT the family – unless YOU let it be that way. People often experience divorce as if it were a big wave that swept them off their feet, over a cliff and carried them out to sea. They flounder. They struggle to breathe and stay afloat. And…
meditation

Thrive During Your Divorce With These 4 Self-Care Tips

Self-care is about more than just a mani-pedi or a new haircut. It’s about nourishing your soul. Women are traditionally care-givers. Unfortunately, we are sometimes so busy taking care of everyone else, we forget to take care of ourselves. I see it all the time as a divorce coach. My clients start talking about everyone…
brain fog

Help! I’m in a Divorce Fog!

Can’t remember or understand what your divorce attorney says? It’s not you … it’s divorce fog! It’s a common occurrence. Almost everyone I know going through a divorce says they can barely remember anything their lawyer says. I call it “divorce fog.” And science has proven that it is a real thing. Multiple studies have…
single mom

3 Tips for Embracing Your Single Mom Status

Being a single mom can be challenging AND liberating. Which perspective do you want to choose? A neighbor of mine happened to say in conversation “Well, now that you’re a single mom …” and it took me completely by surprise. I didn’t realize that I was going to be put in the “single mom” category…
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Collaborative Law: A Divorce Option You Might Not Know About

You might not know about collaborative divorce – but you should if you want to gain more control over the divorce process and create a cooperative co-parenting relationship. I recently attended a 3-day training on Collaborative Law hosted by the Massachusetts Collaborative Law Council. Collaborative law is a process that focuses on dispute resolution versus…
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