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6 Things You Need To Know About Divorce Mediation

If you’re getting divorced, here’s what you need to know about mediation to make better decisions.

I recently attended a 40-hour divorce mediation training. Forty hours is the requirement in my state to practice as a divorce mediator. That’s not why I did it though. As a divorce coach, many of my clients are going through mediation and I wanted to support them as best as possible during the process. I truly believe that mediation is a better way to “do” divorce. And I believe that because I walked out of my first mediation meeting and never went back.

Couples coaching

When Does Cheating Lead To Divorce?

Only 10% of marriages that have experienced infidelity end in divorce. So, what are the real reasons behind it when it DOES happen? Cheating represents a need that isn’t being met in the relationship at home – an ego boost, self-validation, self-exploration or even just physical intimacy. And cheating is rampant in our society. 41%…
controlling ex

Divorce a Controlling Ex and Find Your Voice

Leave the fear and intimidation behind to focus on what’s most important. I’ll call her Janet. She spent years of her life married to a man who used emotional abuse to control her. When she had her epiphany and filed for divorce, he threatened her and swore he would take everything that she cherished, including…
feelings

6 Surprising Feelings You’re Going To Have About Your Divorce

Anger at your ex? Sure, that’s a given. But hope, elation or even nostalgia? Now those are some unexpected feelings. Don’t worry: They’re all totally normal. I still don’t know what to do with my rings now that I’m divorced. Every now and again, I still like to dig them out from where I had…
divorce decision

Get Unstuck Around Your Divorce Decision

Doing nothing is a decision to stay stuck in that situation. How’s that working for you? I knew in my heart that I needed to end my marriage for more than three years before I did anything about it. I did tell my husband that things weren’t working … for either of us … and…
child divorce

How To Make Sure Your Divorce Doesn’t Scar Your Kids For Life

Here’s how to talk about divorce with them and let go of the negativity – for everyone involved.  We did it together. We never used the “D” word. We told our boys that Mommy and Daddy didn’t want to be married anymore. We emphasized that we are still their parents … love them unconditionally ……
welcome box

Divorce Can Be The Best Decision You’ve Ever Made

Is your marriage shackling you to an unfulfilled life? How many years have you been allowing what you don’t like in your marriage? And how many compromises have you made that just didn’t feel good? I’m not talking about leaving the toilet seat up or the toothpaste cap off. I’m talking about where you wanted…
gay marriage

Gay Marriage And Divorce: LGBT Love

Gay marriage is marriage – with everything that comes with it… including divorce. If you’re in an LGBT union and considering a permanent split, here’s what you need to know. Not too long ago, while driving in the car, my 5-year old son told me about two of his classmates that got “married” at recess.…
Overwhelmed

Overwhelmed By Your Divorce? Avoid These 7 Mistakes!

Don’t let “divorce overwhelm” hijack your divorce and cause you to make these mistakes! I confess. I was completely overwhelmed by my divorce. Where once I had been on solid ground, now I was at sea without any sense of how I was going to stay afloat, never mind what direction I needed to take.…
chopped

How Chopped Got Me Through My Divorce

Use These Lessons Learned From Chopped to Feel Like A Champion In Your Divorce! I’ll be honest. I didn’t start watching the TV show Chopped to learn anything. In fact, I only started watching it during my divorce. Everyone has their own “numbing” strategies for giving themselves an emotional break. There’s even a joke in…
coaching

Facing Divorce, Lamar Odom Hired A Life Coach To Turn His Life Around … And So Can You!

After a very public crash and burn with his marriage, coaching is the one resource that can help Lamar rise from the ashes again.  Before last year, Lamar Odom was best known for his two NBA championships as a forward for the Los Angeles Lakers and for being married to Khloe Kardashian. After the Lakers,…
time and money

7 Steps To Choosing The RIGHT Divorce Lawyer

All divorce attorneys are not the same. Make sure you find YOUR perfect fit! It’s difficult to know where to turn when you’re faced with divorce. Few of us have had any prior experience with the legal in’s and out’s associated with this difficult process. In my divorce coaching practice, I’ve heard too many stories…
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7 Steps for Finding Peace During And After Your Divorce

Dealing with a divorce over the holidays can be difficult. So, give yourself the gift of peace and joy. The holiday season is meant to be all about peace and good will. During and after a divorce, though, it’s difficult to find that peace, that joy, in your life – especially with the ghost of…
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