VIDEO: Marriage Isn’t What You Think It Is
What are your marriage beliefs? Your idea about what marriage is … and isn’t … could be sabotaging you and your relationship! Watch my brief video to hear what I know about marriage from my experience as a divorce coach.
When Are You Going To Realize The Disney Fantasy You’ve Been Spoon-Fed Your Whole Life Doesn’t Exist?
It’s wedding season … again. Countless brides across the country have spent an enormous amount of time and money planning and hosting their weddings. And I say brides … because it is primarily, and traditionally, the bride (and bride’s family) that pays and hosts a wedding. And these brides are happy …. even giddy … about doing so. This will be the biggest celebration … pinnacle of accomplishment … most significant status symbol … in their lives. Nothing else will ever compare to that moment when they say “I do.”
Well, that’s not quite true.
As a divorce coach, I know that almost half of those brides will experience divorce. I know that divorce will take at least 3x – 10x more time and money than the wedding itself. I know that when women do divorce, they will be knocked back professionally and financially for at least 6 – 8 years (whereas there is no long-term financial impact on men). And I know that women carry the stigma of divorce both socially and professionally far more than men.
So, why do we do it? We do it because it is what we are “supposed” to do. We are bombarded at birth by family, friends, movies and media all force-feeding us numerous myths our society, consciously or subconsciously, has around marriage. There’s an old saying that sums it up perfectly: “We all eat lies when our hearts our hungry.” And our society is determined to make sure that women are hungry … for love, acceptance, validation and security. Unfortunately, we often find out later that what was being sold to us isn’t what we actually paid for after all.